For many people, that would be God who’s missing. He’s absent because they’ve hidden from Him due to an illusion they harbor (a voice in their head) that tells them there is either something they’ve done or some inherent component about themselves that makes them unacceptable and unlovable.
Nothing could be further from the truth. There is nothing wrong with anyone. God is always a forgiving God and He loves everyone.
Nevertheless, many of these people cling tenaciously to their presuppositions and it brings them unparalleled misery. It stems from personality changes that result from stinking thinking. We’ve been examining this process in detail (seeing as how our very lives are at stake) since mid-July, beginning with the post How the Devil Stole Your Soul.
The damage to one’s life has been easily apparent, as we’ve seen what happens when fear, anger, obsessing over the past, self-centeredness, and an inability to communicate grips his or her persona. It brings havoc to every facet of life, ultimately tearing away the joy from its very center of life, which is relationships -relationships with God, self and others.
God tells us that relationships are everything; but these poor souls don’t experience them or what they do participate in is a hollow shell of what a relationship could be. Now, we’ll look at how they cope…
We’ve seen that people who do not love themselves, live in fear that relationships with others will mirror that lack of self-love. Feeling this way, they shrink away from connecting with others because they believe it will only bring pain. Thus, they busy themselves with religiosity, addictions or self-improvement – all in a fruitless search for happiness.
However, loneliness brings its own measure of pain as well. Eventually, most lonely people reach a point where they can no longer suppress their need for love and begin to blindly search for scraps of it wherever they think it may be found.
Yet their strategies are amiss.
One such strategy is to become a ‘people-pleaser’ – always giving, trying to show someone how you would like to be loved through your actions towards them. Still, it always seems to be a one-way street, one where your needs are never fulfilled. Instead, you find yourself performing for your partner to check their wrath, or to try to glean some smidgen of acceptance. Your hopeless hope is that if you do enough good things for them, they will magically figure out all your needs and meet them. Highly unlikely.
Another strategy (?) is to throw common sense aside and ditch your boundaries.
We are all one in the eyes of God, yet we are each unique – someone whom God created to bring a contribution to His children that no other person can bring. So there is a boundary that demarcates us as a distinct creation, a limit that says, ‘Within this border is me and outside my border exist others.’
When we’ve been beat up by life and scramble to find relief, we let our solid boundaries become ‘fuzzy lines.’ We lose the ability to decide what is good for us because we now base our level of happiness on the amount of acceptance we can get from others. In other words, we begin to mesh with the desires of others (whether or not they are good for us) and lose track of who is responsible for our feelings, beliefs, choices, or actions.
Thus we invite problematic relationships: idealizing even the most toxic kind, afraid of losing what is actually harmful to us, enduring punishment, shame, or condemnation in order to avoid abandonment. We try to compel our ‘partner’ to love us. However, you can’t make anyone love you.
Yet another strategy is to go one the hunt for ‘the One,’ you know, that perfect person who doesn’t have your flaws and will love you perfectly – the one who can save you.
If you loved yourself, you wouldn’t have to hunt. Love from others would be naturally attracted to the availability and invitation that your inner love would radiate outwards. But when you hunt, your desperation is palpable and it only attracts other hunters.
A hunter is loneliness personified – a desolation begotten from self-rejection. So the hunt begins for ‘The One’ who will make you whole and your world come together. Ironically, that voice in your head encourages you to hunt, because it is backhandedly implying that you are not able to provide the love you need for yourself, i.e. you need The One.
If you cannot provide love for yourself, you will have a difficult time recognizing it when others offer love to you. And should you think you found The One that voice will tell you that he or she is not, because true love means certain death for that rascal.
Desperate love hunters (and they’re all desperate), attract other hunters who live at the same level of suffering; and in the initial rush of attraction, they blind themselves to any ‘red flag’ characteristics their potential partner may possess in order to fill their aching need for intimacy.
Indeed, the hunter looks at ‘The One’ with rose-colored glasses, trying to paint the ideal romance – only seeing the similarities that they share with their new partner, (i.e. the things they like best in themselves). They think, ‘This is it!’ And they let their walls down, giddy with the notion of being in love.
Eventually though, each hunter’s stuff (their differences) begin to surface and the romantic dream begins to fray at the edges. The differences are perceived as problems that impede their agenda.
Instead of seeing how these dissimilarities might be seeds for growth, you begin to make your partner wrong for having them. Suddenly, you remember what was wrong with your previous relationship – mystified that the same problem is showing up again, refusing to see that you might be the creator or at least the co-creator of it.
Your answer for ‘fixing’ the problem may be to try to make your partner change by demonstrating for them the perfect way you do the things that need to be done. (At this point, you are judging them, blinding yourself to who they really are. You’ve formed an opinion steeped in self-righteousness. Thus, your partner must be wrong, and what’s wrong about them is the thing you see in them that you don’t accept about yourself. So, most of the time, it’s not your partner that’s the problem.)
Now, the relationship doesn’t’ feel safe and your partner can feel your mistrust. Resentment builds on both sides – each thinking the other should try to be more like them. Competition begins for both attention and control, each seeing the other as the malevolent perpetrator and themselves as the victim who makes all the sacrifices.
Survival strategies ensue – either passively modeling the behavior they want to see from the other or aggressively punishing by withholding love, spewing degrading or caustic speech, or distancing themselves to avoid facing their past once more.
The old hurts begin to surface and outward conflict begins. Each sees the other as the enemy but inwardly believes the relationship is failing because of some lack they themselves possess. Ultimately, one will either anesthetize him or herself, or they will walk away. Either way, the unresolved issues remain dormant until the next ‘One’ shows up and another cycle repeats.
Some poor souls will stay in these toxic relationships because they believe that what they perceive as scraps of love will be enough to survive on as they wait expectantly for that highly intermittent dole out. In that space, they say ‘yes’ to vile things, afraid that their ‘no’ would bring abandonment.
The only way a healthy nurturing relationship can work is if we make a continuing choice to be related, bringing our love and compassion to it, live out a commitment to be present with our partner, and stay awake to whatever life is offering.
Most people can’t get to that space because their focus is always upon their own needs. They bring no empathy, compassion, love or understanding. What they bring is self-defense and control. And then they wonder why their relationships don’t last.
When you practice relationship this way (and it’s hard work), you never have the presence of mind to experience the love you seek.
No wonder people have such a hard time with relationships and / or give up on them altogether. It’s because there is no love brought to the relationship because neither have invited God (through Christ) into it. After all, He is love, our primary source for love, and our model for sharing it.
So, is there a solution to all of the heartsick mind abuse that so many of us have heaped upon ourselves? ABSOLUTELY!!
Good night and God bless.
October 04 2015 | experiencing god's love | No Comments »
This is the eleventh post in our continuing series (that began with How The Devil Stole Your Soul) where we have been investigating Satan’s age-old strategy for depriving our soul from its rightful place in the kingdom of God (using our own efforts), how we do his work by handing down that strategy from generation to generation, the ways our thinking gets twisted, and finally, the characteristics we take on in life, when we make God absent by turning away because we don’t believe He’ll accept us.
We previously looked at the characteristics of living in the past, walking in fear, blustering in anger and being self-absorbed and non-communicative. Let’s examine the final one:
Characteristic #5: Unrelated
In other words, having become someone whose thinking patterns make it impossible for them to have a healthy relationship with anyone – with God, themselves, or with others.
This ‘unrelated-ness’ is not so much a ‘characteristic’ as it is the final outcome of living out the other characteristics listed above:
If you’re trapped in the past, you cannot be in present time where real communication and relationship exists.
If you are afraid of other people because of the threat that you think they represent or you’re they might learn something you’re trying to keep hidden, you will isolate yourself from relationship.
If you bound about like some angry ogre, trying to prevent people from ‘hurting’ you, you’re going to drive them away.
If you only present your mask, no one gets to meet the real you; and if you cannot communicate from other than your own agenda, no real exchange takes place.
(All of this is a result of not seeking God or from running away from Him – both of which deprive you of His love and peace.)
Thus, if you’re working one or more these strategies, what possible hope do you have to grow a healthy, loving, mutually nurturing relationship? A snowball’s chance in hell…
Our entire lives are lived within the framework of relationships – with friends, family, significant others, coworkers, God (hopefully) and with ourselves. Yet for most people, living in relationship is the hardest part of living.
No one gave us a manual (except God) for how to relate to others. In fact, we’re thrust into relationship at birth and then blindly plow through each successive one – trying to learn how to do relationship as we go along. And it’s even more challenging for those who have been ‘broken’ by life.
Our first exposure to relationship was with our parents, who, for the most part, lovingly (but unconsciously) passed down their life indoctrination (with all its un-examined, untruthful, and unworkable components). As a child, we absorbed them without examination either. The end result? Perpetuated misery.
Thanks to our sickly symbiotic relationship with the Dark Mind (that voice in our head), we end up either perpetually alone, or we fall in and out of ‘acquaintances’ because we are afraid to share who we really are.
We look at the world with eyes filtered by our ‘Life Story’ with all its embellishments of meaningless meanings. This is not because our past was so wonderful, but because we were traumatized by the events, or we traumatized ourselves by the meanings we attached to them. Ultimately, we’ve surmised that people aren’t safe, and that they’ll reject the love we offer – rejecting us. So we throw up walls of defense, e.g. our masks.
Our soul has taken on a ‘slipperiness,’ preventing us from being able to stick’ to others. Thus, our primary needs for love and acceptance go unmet.
We don’t even love ourselves because we believe that voice in our head when it says we harbor something within that’s revolting. Because of that, we don’t provide love and acceptance for ourselves. Moreover, we try to separate from our true self.
Until that is resolved, all ‘acquaintances’ with others will not fill the emptiness. After all, if you do not know how to love yourself, how in the world could you expect others to know?
So you see, we show up for relationships with a huge built-in disadvantage – looking for someone to ‘fix’ us. We’re sad, grieving over what we think is wrong with us and exhausted from trying to find someone who will give us what we’re sure we lack. Adding more insanity to this twisted logic, we present our false masks to those we seek to make them believe we already have what we’re convinced we lack.
We dance a frenetic dance in order to garner the favor of others so that we might receive repair.
However, we cannot get anything from anybody unless we are first willing to provide it for ourselves. It is not possible for someone else to alter the experience we have created of ourselves.
That experiential change must come from the inside; and the biggest change we must bring upon ourselves is self-acceptance. We will never feel love and acceptance from others until we first love and accept ourselves.
Otherwise, the only kinds of people we’ll attract will be those who run the same unworkable schemes that we do – people who will abuse us in direct proportion to which we tolerate it from the Dark Mind. Think about it. If you search for acceptance from others for who you really are, while simultaneously presenting your mask and your potential partner is doing the same, (i.e. they are like you, trying to get something from someone without giving anything back) how will either of you find satisfaction?
We stay on the hunt for that imaginary ‘fix’ even though we are frightened beyond measure to find it, because deep down we’re afraid they will reject us by invalidating our beliefs, dominating us and swallowing up who we are, or will refuse to meet our needs.
This painful fear comes from our relationship with that voice in our head whereupon we judge ourselves unlovable.
Because of prior experiences with ‘failed’ relationships, we have a tendency to equate relationship with pain; and it is human nature to avoid pain. Out of fear then, many people avoid relationships – denying their loneliness in aberrant isolation.
Love cannot coexist with fear. (1 Jn. 4:18)
So, this is how most people show up for a relationship: scared, defensive, defeated and sad – all before it even begins…
According to God, relationships are everything:
…for the LORD your God is gracious and merciful, and will not turn His face from you if you return to Him. 2 Chr. 30:9 NKJV
And behold, I am with you and will keep (watch over you with care, take notice of) you wherever you may go… Gn. 28:15 AMP
It is the LORD who goes before you. He will be with you; He will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed. Dt. 31:8 ESV
For You have delivered my soul from death, indeed my feet from stumbling, so that I may walk before God in the light of the living. Ps. 56:13 NASB
The LORD preserves all who love Him… Ps. 145:20 NKJV
This is but a fraction of the love of God, and it’s all yours for the asking. All He asks is for you to be related to Him. And He’s just waiting for you to initiate it…
For the Son of Man came to save [from the penalty of eternal death] that which was lost. Mt. 18:11 AMP
“I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.” Jn. 14:6 NKJV
“I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly. I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd gives His life for the sheep.” Jn. 10:10, 11. NKJV
I have loved you, [just] as the Father has loved Me; abide in My love [continue in His love with Me]. Jn. 15:9 AMP
The only way to be related to God is to be related to His Son. That relationship expands your life and opens the doors to eternity. It brings the love and acceptance relationship you’ve always yearned for…
And I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Comforter (Counselor, Helper, Intercessor, Advocate, Strengthener, and Standby), that He may remain with you forever – The Spirit of Truth…you know and recognize Him, for He lives with you [constantly] and will be in you. Jn. 14:16, 17. AMP
“However, when He, the Spirit of truth, has come, He will guide you into all truth; for He will not speak on His own authority, but whatever He hears He will speak; and He will tell you of things to come. He will glorify Me, for He will take of what is Mine and declare it to you.” Jn. 16:13, 14. NKJV
But as it is written, “What no eye has seen, nor ear heard, nor the heart of man imagined, what God has prepared for those who love him” – these things God has revealed to us through the Spirit. For the Spirit searches everything, even the depths of God. 1 Cor. 2:9, 10. ESV
…the Spirit also helps in our weaknesses. Rm. 8:26 NKJV
But we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of God, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord. Cor. 3:18 NKJV
When you are related to God (through Christ), you are guaranteed a relationship with the Holy Spirit – who reveals the truth of God to you, which in and of itself reveals Christ and He is also the Holy Vehicle through whom God brings your divine transformation, readying you for your heavenly entrance.
Emmanuel Swedenborg, (a 1700’s theologian) described this heavenly threefold relationship we enter into in this manner: God the ‘Divine Soul’ related to Christ the ‘Divine Body,’ from which emanates the ‘Divine Love and Wisdom,’ (i.e. the Holy Spirit) to work the salvation of Man.
You can’t help but be your highest and best when you are in a relationship like that.
And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Gn. 2:18 NKJV
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Mk. 10:7 – 9. ESV
An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. Pr. 31:10 – 12. ESV
In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself…let each of you love his wife and himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Eph. 5:28 & 33. ESV
Behold, children are a gift from the LORD, the fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one’s youth. How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. Ps. 127:3 – 5. NASB
Fathers, do not irritate and provoke your children to anger [do not exasperate them to resentment], but rear them [tenderly] in the training and discipline and the counsel and the admonition of the Lord. Eph. 6:4 AMP
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise: “that it may be well with you and you my live long on the earth.” Eph. 6:1, 2. NKJV
What are we seeing here? It’s the Divine importance of the relationship of family. Men and women were God-ordained to come together in marriage to create a family – one where the husband and wife love and respect each another. How do they do that? They have to love and respect themselves first! (see above: Eph. 5:28 & 33.)
We see that children are the Divine outcome of this union and they are to be loved and treasured – brought up in the word of God. Also, the children must be taught that God says they are to mirror this behavior (along with respect) back to their parents.
Two are better than one, because they have a good [more satisfying] reward for their labor; for if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to life him up! Again, if two lie down together, then they have warmth; but how can one be warm alone? And though a man might prevail against him who is alone, two will withstand him. A threefold cord is not quickly broken. Eccl. 4:9-12. AMP
As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend. Pr. 27:17 NKJV
A man who has friends must himself be friendly… Pr. 18:24 NKJV
A friend loves at all times… Pr. 17:17 NKJV
God says that a friend is one who lives in a love relationship with another and that having that friend will elevate and enhance many areas of both their lives.
You shall love your neighbor as [you do] yourself. Mt. 22:39 AMP
…he who loves God must love his brother also. 1 Jn. 4:21 NKJV
“…love one another as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all will know that you are My disciples…” Jn. 13:34, 35. NKJV
Finally, we see that there is no one with which we are to withhold our love – including ourselves! God is saying that you are related to everyone!
In order to receive all this love and the associated benefits, we have to practice relating in relationships that work!
Good night and God bless.
September 24 2015 | experiencing god's love | No Comments »
This is the fifth part of a subset of ten posts (beginning with How The Devil Stole Your Soul) that examines the behavioral characteristics commonly found in people who have either never sought God or have slunk away from Him, rendering Him absent in their lives – feeling undeserving of His love because of who they think they are, or as a consequence of what they have done.
We generally see character patterns such as fixations on the past, fear, anger, and being overly concerned about oneself. Let’s look at yet another:
Characteristic #5: Incommunicado
When you were born, you communicated perfectly. Your coos and cries brought joy, love and immediate attention from your parents. However, after the generations-old world conditioning was handed down to you by your parents, peers, schools, government and the media, your ability to communicate was squelched.
Yours wasn’t a solitary incident. Most others suffer from the same predicament. There is no communication because everyone is engaged in sharing their illusory ‘Life Stories’ through the mouths of their false masks. There is no exchange of reality, of truth.
We learned as children that if we (innocently) told the truth about something and our parents didn’t particularly want to hear that truth, we got punished. So, like our parents, we learn to edit out portions of the truth (i.e. lie) and to speak no more of them to avoid further recrimination.
When this behavior becomes entrenched, we will have accepted lies about ourselves, others and life itself, and they will constitute our ‘new truth,’ which differs from other people’s new truth. Thus, we don’t have a common viewpoint from which to engage anyone with.
Combine that with our obsession to be engrossed in a chronic conversation with that voice in our head, and eventually we find that we are incommunicado.
Yet we cling voraciously to our particular viewpoint because our lives are structured around them – lies and all; and lies are never a good thing:
For they exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator… Rm. 1:25 NASB
After all, what is the mask that you don, other than your created thing? It’s the thing you give all your energy to, all your attention (worship) to – seeking the acceptance of man instead of God.
“We must obey God rather than men.” Acts 5:29 NASB
A false witness will not go unpunished, and he who speaks lies will not escape. Pr. 19:5 NKJV
And isn’t someone who is living a lie and unable to effectively communicate, living in punishment already?
Given the seemingly insurmountable barriers to communication that people instill within themselves, you’ll find that many withdraw from the task – trading communication for isolation, caused by their own prejudices and blame-laying. They’re living in their heads instead of in the real world.
Their communication style becomes an action / reaction exchange – whereby they speak behind walls of defense, always on the lookout for some potential trigger that might open their old wounds. In this mode, they cannot listen because they are focused on meeting the needs of their self-image, which is promulgated by that voice in their head.
Thus, your attention is totally focused upon yourself during any conversation as you impatiently wait for the other to shut up so that you can smear your truth on them.
Your need to be ‘right’ keeps you from learning anything new, so that you cannot outgrow your past.
(You know you’re in this situation when you hear that voice in your head say, ‘I’ve heard all this before.’)
You can only be ‘right’ if you make others ‘wrong.’ So now you’re making enemies, which leads toward a solitary life. Where there is no communication, there can be no love…
For the whole Law [concerning human relationships] is compiled with in the one precept, You shall love your neighbor as [you do] yourself. Gal. 5:14 AMP
Goodnight and God bless.
September 19 2015 | experiencing god's love | No Comments »
This is the ninth post of a series (beginning with How The Devil Stole Your Soul) where we are looking at what becomes of someone who unconsciously absorbs the social conditioning that was authored in antiquity by the ‘father of lies.’ This conditioning revolves around two root sentences: ‘I’m unlovable,’ and ‘I’m not good enough.’
When one makes these the pillars of their self-reference, they run from God – making Him absent from them; and their life is but a hollow core of what it could have been. You can spot people who are suffering with this illusion because they display certain characteristics. We already mentioned three of them: suspended animation (stuck in the past), panic (fear of life), and wrath (self-directed anger at their self-induced plight that they project towards others). Let’s continue:
Characteristic #4: Self-absorption
When you were born, you didn’t have a self-image:
So God created man in His own image, in the image and likeness of God He created him; male and female He created them. Gn. 1:27 AMP
You had a God-image. But somewhere in life, from the bumps and bruises and the berating from the voice in your head and the voices in the heads of others, you made a decision to deny your God-connection because you brought meanings to events in your life that weren’t true.
For example, let’s say someone turns you down for a date. It could have simply been that you weren’t their type, or they were afraid of intimacy, or they didn’t want a relationship at that particular time. But you make it about you – saying things to yourself like ‘How could they be so insensitive?’ Why can’t they see what a good catch I am?’
Then that voice in your head jumps in and ‘helps’ you see your situation in a new light as it says, ‘They are so mean. You shouldn’t go out with them anyway. Did you see how ugly and stupid they were?’ And, because the voice wants to keep you miserable in order to control you, it’ll then redirect the criticisms back at you: e.g. ‘How could you be such a moron as to ask them out? You are so ugly, stupid and undesirable. What will others think when they find out you were rejected? You’ll be alone for the rest of your life.’
It does that to bring you back to those two primary sentences we started this post with.
So what do you do? You combat these false meanings you’ve attached to events and to yourself with a new false image – a mask constructed of the lies from that voice in your head, who tells you how you must present yourself to please others. In other words, you try to appear as someone who doesn’t exist; and you never let your guard down because that same voice has convinced you that you have some monstrous inner parts, that if exposed, would bring you a lifetime of loneliness.
You become obsessed with the maintenance of your mask – self-absorbed, always tweaking your mask to meet what you think are the needs of the next person, trying to appear ‘flawless’ in their eyes. It’s both exhausting and unrewarding. Because these people are relating to your mask, they never get to meet the real you and your real needs are never met.
Your self-absorption becomes chronic because your number one pastime is to avoid rejection, which you feel you must do with just about everyone you meet. Thus, you have to continually promote your mask and it requires you having to build up some kind of ‘false pride’ in it so that others will be convinced it’s you.
Many of us get into this mess because we never examine how we think! We insist on being ignorant about who God made us to be and about what our ‘self-image’ has been up to. It is a purposeful case of mistaken identity because we fool ourselves into believing that our mask will bring the acceptance from others we so sorely crave – which keeps sending us that backhanded message of worthlessness.
That mask is built upon the framework of our suffering – the very thing we’re trying so hard to avoid. Thus, we keep that suffering on the center stage of our lives.
Your life never gets to be lived because the voice in your head feeds your self-image, knowing that as long as you’re obsessed with that, you’ll never see your own perfection.
You matter to God:
For just as the body is a unity and yet has many parts, and all the parts though many, form [only] one body, so it is with Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One.) For by [means of the personal agency of] one [Holy} Spirit we were all, whether Jews or Greeks, slaves or free, baptized [and by baptism united together] into one body, and all made to drink of one [Holy] Spirit. 1 Cor. 12:12, 13. AMP
For You formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother’s womb. I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; wonderful are Your works, and my soul knows it very well. Ps. 139:13, 14. NASB
Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you? 1 Cor. 3:16 ESV
There is nothing wrong with you. Never was. Never will be. But you have to reconnect with Him to see it.
Until then, you will continue to judge yourself for who you are not; and then you exact punishment upon yourself, hoping it will make you good. You can’t beat goodness into anyone.
There is nothing wrong with any of us. It’s just that we’ve bought into the Big Lie – the lie that says we are damaged goods…
Goodnight and God bless.
September 10 2015 | experiencing god's love | No Comments »
This is the eighth in a series of posts beginning with How The Devil Stole Your Soul. We’ve heretofore considered the wiles of the adversary, especially with regards to how he leads you to distort your thinking to such an extent that your sense of self has become misshapen as well.
As a result, many people hold a disfigured picture of themselves up for continual critical examination by themselves and by the voice of their egos, to such a measure as to bring misery upon every facet of their being – despising who they think they are and believing that God does the same. Thus, they hide from Him yet believe it is He who is absent from them.
Because they abandon God’s truths regarding the magnificence in which they were wrought, they see life as a dangerous territory – to be at best warily navigated, or at worst, avoided. These poor souls have distinct characteristics. We’ve looked at the first two: suspended animation and panic; i.e. they are frozen in time (trapped in the past) and are deathly afraid of everything that goes on in and around them…
Characteristic #3: Wrath
One of the ways many people try to defend themselves against this dangerous world of their perception, is to strike out against others with their wrath (to do unto others before they do unto them). What do they hope to gain?
Cease from anger and forsake wrath; do not fret; it leads only to evildoing. Ps. 37:8 NASB
[Before we go there, we must consider that doing so is highly ineffective, because anger in itself (as well as its close cousins: envy and jealousy*) is really just another form of fear. It’s a form of oppression, where one tries to manacle another with their beliefs through intense emotion. This emotional offense is in reality a defense mechanism to intimidate someone into not trying to invalidate the angry one’s tightly held beliefs. And, if you stop to examine the beliefs they are angrily trying to protect, it’s always about some interpretation they made about something in their past.]
*(Envy comes from a fear of being ‘less than,’ believing others to be better than you. Jealousy involves the same, as well as including a fear of abandonment. Anger is the fear of life itself.)
Wrath is cruel, anger is overwhelming, but who can stand before jealousy? Pr. 27:4 ESV
For anger slays the foolish man, and jealousy kills the simple. Job. 5:2 NASB
For wherever there is jealousy (envy) and contention (rivalry and selfish ambition), there will also be confusion (unrest, disharmony, rebellion) and all sorts of evil and vile practices. James 3:16 AMP
The angry person is the one who is upset with the way that their life is turning out, (without taking any responsibility for it) projecting their wrath onto anyone whom they perceive is interfering with their survival mechanisms, e.g. someone who stops them from getting what they want (could be themselves), who keeps them from having an expectation fulfilled, or who disrupts their communication.
Anger is a form of ‘closing down’ by ‘striking out.’ It creates walls between the perpetrator and the object of their wrath. It is addictive – feeding upon itself and getting stronger with every outburst.
Anger has its roots in you not liking something (that’s only your preferences talking), wanting life to be different than it is (but allowing your ‘fear of change’ to paralyze you), seeing others as the ‘enemy’ (for not sharing your preferences), protecting against potential rejection (afraid the past will repeat itself), afraid of being ‘found out’ (avoiding the experience of shame or rejection for some misdeed you committed in the past), or you feel that others are trying to control you (especially if you see yourself as a victim of your past).
Wrath is a false relief valve. We explode to take the pressure off of ourselves and to shift our accountability for life onto something or someone else. However, with each use, anger magnifies until it becomes an uncontrollable torrent – so much so that we become afraid to express it (just like most of our emotions) yet it still comes, even if we don’t want it to.
He who is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who is quick-tempered exalts folly. Pr. 14:29 NASB
Our wrathful tirades drive everyone away (even those whom we want to hold close), leaving us with yet more shame and guilt. Worse, it does nothing to relieve our pain. You see, the danger that comes from indulging in anger is that it grows into violence that you direct both at yourself and others. At this point, how can you ever hope to touch happiness?
Ironically, this is one of the rare times the voice in your head will agree with you as it quips: ‘Didn’t I tell you that you were unhappy? See how horrible life is, how the world is, and what it’s done to you? How can you possibly get anywhere without me?’
What does anger do? It makes you think that you are powerful; but in reality it tears you down with high blood pressure so that you get to have a heart attack or stroke, not to mention ulcers, anxiety and cancer. Anger kills both the host and the target. Everyone around you runs away and you find yourself alone once more.
But that’s only if you continue to persist doing things your way. Far better to live reconnected to God and living your life His way – and that includes getting your coping / communicative skills on board with His:
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Pr. 15:1 NASB
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another as God in Christ forgave you. Eph. 4:31, 32. ESV
…everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God. James 1:19 NASB
Good sense makes a man restrain his anger, and it is his glory to overlook a transgression or an offense. Pr. 19:11 AMP
…you are a God ready to forgive, gracious and merciful, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love… Neh. 9:17 ESV
You see, God’s answers are always right, as well as the example of His own behavior.
Happiness eludes us because we become comfortable in our own misery. It’s what we know and we’re good at maintaining it. We know we won’t fail.
Moreover, we use unhappiness to justify our self-fulfilled prophecies about life’s disappointments, the perceived lack of fairness, our victim status, our distorted coping strategies, etc.
Without turning back to God, you will exit this life without ever having lived it. It doesn’t have to be this way.
Motivated to shed your old life yet? Just in case your not, (and I’m a bulldog for your salvation) there are still some facets of self-destruction yet to be uncovered…
Goodnight and God bless.
September 05 2015 | experiencing god's love | No Comments »
This is the seventh in a series of posts beginning with How The Devil Stole Your Soul, where we’ve looked at how the thoughts you entertain in your head are what breaks your connection with God and renders Him absent.
These are a string of thoughts you learned as a child, handed down to you by unconscious parents and others in your lives, as well as malevolent governments, media and the branches of both. The outcome of these destructive thoughts is one where most people have very little regard for who they think they are and they become afraid of the world around them. In such a case, people who don’t lean on God (because they have estranged Him) take on certain characteristics. We spoke of the first of these last time: Suspended Animation.
It is a state one lives when they are trapped in their past and afraid of their future, never having a life because they cannot be in present time, which is where real life happens…
Characteristic #2: Panic
You rarely see little children running in abject panic. It has to be indoctrinated into them by parents, peers, schools, governments and their media lackeys – all of which are a reflection of that fear-spewing voice in their heads. This ‘fear mindset’ is the disease of an anxious world.
What are these children afraid of? They’re frightened of same things that scare the adults, because they cling to those lessons from childhood. It’s all about the child having come to a conclusion that he or she is inadequate, they will be punished or rejected for that inadequacy, and that makes their world a dangerous place.
Fear is not real; it’s not a solid thing. It is an emotional mechanism for avoiding pain – for avoiding things that might happen. It does not protect you. Indeed, prolonged exposure to fear leads to insomnia, ulcers, high blood pressure, heart attacks, strokes and cancer.
We end up with a child (who becomes an adult) who avoids the unknown, so that they will not have to face the punishment that would follow some failure they might commit – running through life in a near state of panic, trying not to make mistakes, striving to be perfect. Should they make a mistake, the voice in their head will beat them with it as long as they allow it.
Is any of this congruent with the ways of God?
The fear of man brings a snare, but whoever leans on, trusts in, and puts his confidence in the Lord is safe and set on high. Pr. 29:25 AMP
“Do not be afraid…I am your shield, your exceedingly great reward.” Gn. 15:1 NKJV
‘I shall also grant peace in the land, so that you may lie down with no one making you tremble.’ Lv. 26:6 NASB
I sought the LORD, and He answered me, and delivered me from all my fears. Ps. 34:4 NASB
When I am afraid, I will put my trust in You. In God, whose word I praise, in God I have put my trust; I shall not be afraid. What can mere man do to me? Ps. 56:3, 4. NASB
Yes, though I walk through the [deep, sunless] valley of the shadow of death, I will fear or dread no evil, for You are with me; Your rod [to protect] and Your staff [to guide], they comfort me. Ps. 23:4 AMP
The LORD is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life; of whom shall I be afraid? Ps. 27:1 ESV
Little children, you are of God [you belong to Him] and have already defeated and overcome them [the agents of the antichrist], because He Who lives in you is greater (mightier) than he who is in the world. 1 Jn. 4:4 AMP
Well, that looks like a lot of ‘no’ doesn’t it? God delivers you from what fears? All fears. He is your shield. He protects you from all people, and even from death itself. What about that awful voice in your head? It was patterned after the voice that lied to Adam and Eve – the original antichrist. Yep! God put Christ within you and has got that chatterbox beat as well.
But, the person who has been conditioned, who feels so bad about themselves and is sure that God has rejected them, doesn’t know any of this. They only know fear.
There are three basic fears: the fear of death (if you believed in God you would not fear death): “Behold the tabernacle of God is with men, and He will dwell with them, and they shall be His people. God Himself will be with them and be their God. And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying.” Rv. 21:3, 4. NKJV
The fear of abandonment (which comes from believing that you are unlovable, unacceptable, and must find your meaning in life from others): And the LORD, He is the One who goes before you, He will not leave you nor forsake you; do not fear nor be dismayed.” Dt. 31:8 NKJV
Finally, we have the fear of impermanence (change). Yet the only thing life guarantees is change. Internally, we all know that, but it’s unnerving for most people because they want to know what’s going to happen next. They want things to stay the same so they can feel that they have some semblance of control over life.
“For I am the LORD, I do not change;” Mal. 3:6 NKJV
The mind of man plans his way, but the LORD directs his steps. Pr. 16:9 NASB
Do not [earnestly] remember the former things; neither consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing! Is. 43:18, 19. AMP
God is the only unchangeable force in this universe. We can count on what He will do as we walk by His word. However, we can make all the plans we want, but if they don’t jive with His plans, God’s going to try to nudge you into a new way. It is your ‘absent-minded’ wanderings that cause Him to change up things (for your good). Change is good because it means we have a plethora of new possibilities to look forward to.
But hey, we’re talking about people who are blind to all of this – people who are obsessed with trying to get everything ‘right’ and afraid of what will happen if they don’t. They become chameleons trying to mold themselves into what they think others want them to be.
Ultimately, they are afraid to decide on any options and become paralyzed – afraid to do and afraid to be, running from the meanings they’ve attached to everything. They’re running from fear, not realizing that they are generating it.
We scramble from the present moment and hide from the next one because they are unknowns. Thus, we lose any chance to be happy because we’re too busy struggling to bring all our conditions together that must be met for that perfect moment that never comes.
We react to life instead of evaluating it, so we never experience the reality of what it is that we are afraid of. What we are afraid of is being ourselves; and there can be no life without fear if we are afraid to express our true selves. We believe the lies the voice in our head tells us – the one who invalidates our feelings and then eviscerates us for having them. Yet all of this abuse pales in comparison to what we heap upon our own heads.
We think there is some sort of secret to figuring life out; sure that everyone else knows what it is. Life presents itself as it is, yet we refuse to accept it because it’s not the way we want it. We keep searching for safety but the only way to find that is to live life less. Not a good thing.
Everyone is so afraid that they’ll never get it all together. Guess what? NOBODY DOES! We are all a work in progress.
Fear needs to be uprooted so that we can make conscious decisions. Would someone consciously decide to hurt themselves and others, invite suffering, and believe that they are unlovable? Of course not!
You only do those things because you are afraid – only because you forgot your perfection…
Goodnight and God bless.
August 27 2015 | experiencing god's love | No Comments »
In that last five previous posts, we’ve been exploring how the devil stole your soul by planting a thought in the heads of Adam and Eve, from which they deduced that they were not created perfect the way God made them. They passed this message onto their children and each successive generation has followed suit.
That message is personified in most people’s heads as the voice of ‘ego,’ a voice they’ve taken on as their own. This voice lies to you, leading you down a path where you define your life from a feeling that you’re inherently flawed, making you ‘unlovable’ and / or ‘not good enough.’ Subsequently, you berate yourself for those imaginary flaws that the unlovable voice in your head says you have. In shame you isolate yourself from your true self, others, and even from God Himself. Yes, it is you breaking off your spiritual connection that makes for an absent God.
Your life mirrors what is going on in your head, which puts you continually on the run from the ‘bad things’ that you think are going on in and around you. Thus, you cannot see that it is you creating that inner and outer environment. And you wear yourself out trying to wear a mask that you hope others will accept. It all leads to lethargy, isolation, physical illness and violence.
The violence stems from your resistance against the world you perceive, and you make yourself a victim to relieve you from having to take responsibility for your life. You begin to identify with the harsh criticisms hurled at you by that voice: ‘Yes, I just don’t have what it takes;’ i.e. you are defining yourself as a loser and manifest that for everyone to see; and see it they do…
Characteristic #1: Suspended animation
In other words, you’re living life (if you want to call it that) outside of real time. The voice helps you do this by stealing your time, robbing you from the only time in which reality exists – in the present moment. It does that by continually pummeling you with the events of your past (primarily your version of it: your Life Story). As it immerses you in the past, it tells you that you are your past. So, your life becomes a reflection of your childhood and you become preoccupied in trying to fix that inner wounded child’s problems.
We chase our own tails, reliving what we think are the events of our past, over and over – giving them a little more oomph with each revolution.
Not only does our ‘dark mind’ use the past to control us, but it also dangles the hope of a better future in front of you – again to keep you from living in the present moment. In addition, the only place we can experience God is in present time.
(The voice also beats you over the head with what it says are the sins of your past, so that you will be too ashamed to seek Him out anyway.)
Your only real and ongoing sin is living in suffering, and throwing your precious life away. But you know what? Christ has already died and rose again so that you could gain forgiveness for any transgression in your past, and He is willing to help you retrieve your present:
“Do not call to mind the former things, or ponder the things of the past. Behold, I will do something new, now it will spring forth; will you not be aware of it? I will even make a roadway in the wilderness, rivers in the desert.” Is. 43:18, 19. NASB
“I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions for My own sake; and I will not remember your sins.” Is. 43:25 NKJV
Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy-laden and overburdened, and I will cause you to rest. [I will ease and relieve and refresh your souls.] Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle (meek) and humble (lowly) in heart, and you will find rest (relief and ease and refreshment and recreation and blessed quiet) for your souls. For My yoke is wholesome (useful, good – not harsh, hard, sharp, or pressing, but comfortable, gracious, and pleasant), and My burden is light and easy to be borne.) Mt. 11:28 – 30. AMP
God never intended for you to live a burdensome life, trapped in some illusory past. He knows that when you continually put your mind in front of your eyes, you can only give Him your back.
You know when you have chosen your past over God because you remain frozen in time – revealed by a conversation in your head that is only about the past. You continually spew forth sentences such as ‘If only I would have done ___.’ ‘If only I’d married ___.’ ‘If only I wasn’t so ___.’ ‘If only my parents weren’t so ___.’ ‘If only, if only, if only…’
It’s a conversation consisting of a string of regrets (attachments to the past) – a flurry of thoughts telling you that you, someone else, or something else must change in order for you to be happy. You do the same thing when you’re lost in some nebulous future: ‘If only I could be taller, richer, etc.’
What happens when you keep these conversations going in your head? Nothing happens. Why? Life is only lived in the present moment.
The voice likes you in the past because that is where it can exercise its power. It is not omniscient. That’s why it doesn’t like you in the present moment because that represents change – an unpredictable state of affairs that it can’t control. So it keeps presenting your world as an ongoing stream of past events with warnings like ‘What if this happens again?’ In other words, it preserves its relevance by keeping you believing that your worst nightmare is lurking just around the corner.
What it has done is that in your mind it has changed the true meaning of time as the opportunity to live a meaningful life, and made it the enemy – a place where you cower in the fear of replaying your past.
How does that look? Life never seems to be what we think it should be. It’s a life we map out in order to avoid the pain of our past, which ultimately keeps our focus on that very same pain.
Instead of seeking out God to help us ferret out the roots of our dissatisfaction with life, we change jobs, relationships and geography, or we immerse ourselves in meaningless activities of distraction – remaining the author of our own vexation.
Life changes with our without you. You suffer because you want your sad life to remain the same because it’s all you know and because you know the person you have to be to live it. But, it just continues to worsen because your past is bottomless. Why? Because you continue to embellish your Life Story so that there are always new nuances with which to beat yourself up with.
This is not living; it is dying unconsciously…
No one makes the conscious decision to be wounded, yet those wounds will continue to fester in those who will not let go of their past.
Whatever happened in your past my or may not have been your fault. It may or may not have happened the way you remember it. Whatever happened, IT DOESN’T MATTER! What matters is that you learn from it and move on.
You cannot get that time back or undo what has transpired. You have to let it go. That part is your responsibility.
It’s time to seek God and let Him wake you from your suspended animation and fit you with a new watch.
But as for me, I trust in You O LORD; I say, “You are my God,” my times are in Your hand; Ps. 31:14, 15. NKJV
For I know the thoughts I think towards you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart. I will be found by you, says the LORD, and I will bring you back from your captivity… Jer. 29:11 – 14. NKJV
Until next time…
Goodnight and God bless.
August 22 2015 | experiencing god's love | No Comments »
That’s a loaded question. In the three previous posts, we’ve been examining the premise that the devil steals souls by placing thoughts in the heads of children – suggesting they are flawed. We’ve seen that this leads to a tendency for them to believe they are subsequently unacceptable and / or unlovable to both God and other people. We then followed how that mindset was unconsciously passed down from parent to child first, (because their parents passed it down to them) and then from the public schools, government, and media.
Finally we looked at how children (like yourself) create a defense mechanism against the potential pain of rejection (for their imaginary flaws), which consists of a mental construct called ego. This ego also has a voice that the host eventually believes is their own. It begins showing up as a ‘protector,’ but then this mental blight (Dark Mind) batters its creator relentlessly until it becomes the taskmaster.
Of course God could impose His voice at any time, but that isn’t’ how He works. He allows you to exercise your free will. If you choose to listen to that voice in your head, He has no options. He will not violate His covenant. The other side of that is when ego has its way with you, you’re so busy trying to survive that you can’t hear God’s voice anyway…
If you’re trying to make sense of this, and you’re here for the first time, I strongly urge you to read those preceding posts.
Now let’s examine what your life looks like when that voice in your head is running the show:
That Dark Mind combs through every snippet of your thoughts in order to mimic you, so that you become blind to its presence as it being something distinct and separate. When you hear it, you believe it’s you thinking out loud. So you take everything it says at face value as the absolute truth.
This leads to continual confusion because we cannot look to darkness for clarity. We search for the things that make us suffer but never realize that the darkness we harbor is suffering itself.
Suffering serves no purpose because it has nothing to teach us. Most of our suffering comes from our attachment to our past, or more accurately, ego’s embellished (false) version of it – our ‘Life Story.’ In essence then, we are living the life of the upset child within us who is lonely, scared, and feeling unacceptable. Worse, we are wasting our lives trying to fix that child’s non-existent (they are in the past after all) problems.
Remember! You can’t solve problems that aren’t real.
You become a victim of a false reality where you exist as a perception of smallness, ineptness and as one who is surrounded by problems.
You act on the solutions presented to you from the voice in your head. Your actions unfortunately consist of those that justify your Life Story – making it more real and you more self-righteous, so your actions don’t impact your real world. You begin to judge others whom you feel are at the root of your problems, as well as yourself. In other words, you are joining the voice in your head, helping it punish you. Suffering results.
Suffering comes at the hands of our self-rejection, not accepting our true selves or the reality of the world around us, preferring to cling to our illusions. It’s our preferences that lead to our unhappiness; and ‘unhappy’ is where the voice in our head wants us. It keeps us distracted and compliant.
This all runs contrary to God’s plan:
My son, if sinners entice you, do not consent. Pr. 1:10 NKJV
The voice in your head is a sinner of the worst kind; indeed, it was fashioned from the author of sin. But God is always waiting if you’ll meet Him halfway:
Let us test and examine our ways, and return to the LORD! Let us lift up our hearts and hands to heaven: “We have transgressed and rebelled….” Lam. 3:40 – 42. ESV
You came near when I called you; you said, ‘Do not fear!’ You have taken up my cause, O Lord; you have redeemed my life. Lam. 3:57, 58. ESV
However, if you don’t reach out to God, how does this dark life like this look?
1. It’s a life lived in fear of false problems animated by knee-jerk reactions of self-defense.
2. It’s a life without love because no one gets a chance to meet the real you that is hidden behind the mask – that false persona you present, hoping others will accept. Thus you modify your behavior to bring pleasure to others, neglecting the things that matter most to you. Should someone fall in love with your mask, it brings no satisfaction because your primary need is to be loved for who your really are. It is no life, because your mask isn’t real.
As our lives progress beyond childhood, we encounter major events and interactions with others whom we thought that were bigger-than-life and more powerful than us. In other words, we assigned (mostly false) meanings to these experiences. It is these meanings that are the root of our problems. We attach meanings where there were none.
You avoid any event or person whom you have judged to have the potential to bring a repeat of your past sufferings. You avoid events, so you live a life void of challenges that can bring growth and you avoid people, so you get to be lonely as well.
What is that? It’s a life of mediocrity, false security and loveless-ness.
Furthermore, our obsession over our past colors our present with these false meanings, so that our now and our tomorrows become self-fulfilling prophecies of our yesterdays. What you think is what you see. *
*For as he thinks within himself, so he is. Pr. 23:7 NASB
But the life we see is not the one we want; so we live a life of resistance – choosing to resist reality and to resist taking responsibility for how our lives are turning out. We resist by distracting ourselves from life, either through entertainment, busyness or addictions.
And the Dark Mind continues its incessant demonic-based chatter in the background, never saying anything uplifting, – telling you that you are incomplete unless you remove your flaws, change yourself, or acquire some physical bauble so that you can keep up with the Joneses.
Guess what? Should you be so fortunate to meet any of these goals, it will continue to come up with more ‘required’ challenges as it let’s you know that you still have not arrived…
You know you’re suffer this way when you pepper yourself with questions such as ‘Why does this happen to me?’ ‘Why am I this way?’ ‘What is wrong with my life?’ These are questions designed by the voice in your head to perpetuate your suffering.
The bottom line is that stuff happens to us in life. We (with a little Dark help) made a decision about it or about ourselves and it altered the way we felt about ourselves, others or about life itself. And our lives changed as a result.
I was not immune to this dismal cycle either. At the tender age of seven, I got into a altercation with the neighbor boy and he was getting the upper hand. My father came home at the moment the boy had me pinned to the ground. All he did was walk into the house. He thought that was the right thing to do, to teach me how to be tough. (I wouldn’t learn that until years later.)
I made a decision that he didn’t love me and it altered our relationship until the day he died. I made the further assumption that if the person I loved the most didn’t love me, I must be unlovable. My life was one of suffering for decades after that event – all due to a misunderstanding.
But it’s what we do. It’s such a unnecessary, devastating way of living. That’s why I’m dedicating this present series (from painstaking experience, research, and prayer) to everyone so that we can break free of these chains, reconnect with God, and have the lives we desire.
Whatever we did in the past we did because we were afraid. I was afraid to ask my dad if he loved me. I was afraid he’d say ‘no.”
No one deserves condemnation for being afraid; but it is our responsibility to get past our fears by invalidating their roots so that we can be free of our reactionary responses to them. We need to do this because the lies that we’ve woven around people and events are far more damaging that the people and events themselves.
You’re about to go on the hunt to spot the darkness whenever it’s present. Then we’ll learn (with God’s help) how to eliminate it.
And behold, I am with you and will keep (watch over you with care, take notice of) you wherever you may go… Gn. 28:15 AMP
Stay with me…
Goodnight and God bless.
August 15 2015 | experiencing god's love | No Comments »
He put a brain in your head – a magnificently designed organ serving two major functions: 1) to initiate and oversee all of the other functions of the body, making any corrections necessary, and 2) to be your seat of reason, processing information so that you can learn (this also includes memory and emotions).
However, as we saw in our last post, The Devil May Get His Hooks In Your Children, this wonderful organ finds itself under assault by a false mental construct (ego) that you created as a child, (a false persona fabricated as a self-defense mechanism against imaginary dangers), a ‘Dark Mind’ if you will. It contaminates your brain with a jumble of lies in order to modify your mindset, by filtering your senses – resulting in altered meanings to all the incoming information your brain processes to suit its own agenda.
This Dark Mind is a personification of the man-made rules that were handed down to you in order to force you into a conformed behavior that it says will garnish love and acceptance from others. You don’t question the Dark Mind when it speaks because you believe that voice is your own. And every lie you accept as truth increases its stranglehold over you.
The result is that you think it is you who is thinking, but it is the Dark Mind. It is a distortion of your consciousness – a whirlwind of endless mental chatter that rails against the world and those who live in it and will eventually make you its prime target. It does so to keep you off balance, because it is driven by self-preservation, (which it accomplishes by controlling you) rooted in its fear that one day you might wake up and threaten its existence.
When you first created this ‘ego,’ your real mind wasn’t threatened. It was content to have this ego baby sit you while it was off solving your problems. Your brain could not recognize it for the monster it would become.
So the Dark Mind is not your real mind. It works within your mind but exists outside of it. It only exists because of your faith in its reality and in its declared role as your ‘great protector.’ If you allow it to thrive, your true mind (your soul) goes into hibernation.
In reality, you’ve now inadvertently and unconsciously broken God’s First Commandment:
You shall have no other gods before or besides Me. Ex. 20:3 AMP
Again, this new voice in your head takes in the neutral information your brain receives, and distorts it – giving you altered feedback that the voice says is vital for your survival. You live in a continuous stream of corrupted thoughts with regards to what is real and what actions are required for survival, acceptance and love.
As I said, eventually this voice comes after you. It brainwashes you to believe what I call the ‘Big Lie,’ which says, ‘THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOU.’
Here’s how that works: it tells you that you are flawed so that you begin to condemn yourself. Then it tells you that you need to hide those flaws (that you don’t really have) in order to avoid rejection. Furthermore, it tells you how to fix those ‘bad parts’ you have, by giving you tasks to perform that do not work. (Why? You can’t fix a problem that doesn’t exist!)
Thus, it keeps you running blindly on a mission with no chance of success.
Why does it do that? It wants to keep you anxiety-ridden so that you’re too frantic to manage your life to get you to defer to it’s plans to help you survive so it gets to call the shots. How does that manifest in your life? It shows up as continual, nonsensical, worrisome assessments regarding every decision you make, such as ‘Will this make me lovable?’ ‘Am I doing the right thing? ‘Will this make me acceptable?’ ‘Will this hide my bad parts?’ ‘What will others think of me?’
In other words, you make yourself suffer, worrying over problems that you do not have. Worse, that voice in your head ‘helps out’ with comments such as ‘You’re ugly, fat, skinny, uncoordinated, stupid, undesirable, etc.’ That protector of yours now spends all of its time calling you a loser.
When you engage with your Dark Mind, you become drained of mental energy, suffer from confusion, lose yourself in daydreams, and you punish yourself with criticism over your non-existent defects.
(When you’re like this, you are separated from God – either ignorant of or forgetting that God’s help is always available:
Say to those who are fearful-hearted, “Be strong, do not fear! Behold, our God will come with vengeance, with the recompense of God, He will come and save you.” Is. 35:4 NKJV
The Lord is at hand; do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Phil. 4:5 – 7. ESV)
Moreover, the voice in your head is not content with corrupting your thinking about your present-time concerns; it also reaches into your psyche and distorts your memories – making them bigger, darker and more shameful. Your Dark Mind weaves a tale of what it says your history consists of (your ‘Life Story’) and relentlessly beats you up with it. It tells you that you had a terrible life, you were to blame, and nobody understands what you went through, but it. Equally as bad, the voice tells you that your future will look the same. More lies.
But what does God say?
For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you, says the Lord, thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for evil, to give you hope in your final outcome. Jer. 29;11 AMP
However, instead of relying on God’s promise, you run with your Life Story, dragging it around like a ball and chain and blaming every disagreeable circumstance on it.
If you haven’t figured it out yet, the voice in your head is not your friend. It judges you – finding fault with everything you do, think and are. Because you identify with the voice, you judge yourself mercilessly. And when you can no longer contain your self-inflicted pain, you project it outwards.
Life is found wanting as you suffer and wait for ‘something’ to bring you happiness (even though you don’t know what that something is).
Even if you should somehow grasp a moment of happiness, the Dark Mind will tell you things like, ‘This isn’t quite it.’ ‘You’re not quite there.’ ‘This will never last.’
Okay, so what’s the bottom line? We made up this malevolent voice in our head that says the world sucks, other people suck and that we suck. That same voice works to keep us in a perpetual state of emergency so we cannot stop and see what is real.
We create our own suffering, but that is too painful to admit, so we lay the blame on others, the world, or on God Himself – all the while denying our responsibility for how our lives are turning out. We put more faith in the Dark Mind than in God.
Let’s look at all this from a God point of view:
I firmly believe that we cannot rise above this mess of our own making without God’s help. If we could, we already would have.
God has told us over and over that if we lived by His rules, love and acceptance would always follow. (Gn.4:7) He painstakingly laid those rules before us in His word. If we wanted to encapsulate their meaning in their totality, we could say that it boils down to loving God, loving ourselves, and loving everybody else. (Mt. 22:27 – 39.)
We suffer when we reject God because we are rejecting the very Source of complete love and acceptance.
Satan has a plan. It’s to get you to believe that there is something is wrong with you. Then everything else he wants will fall into place. The Big Liar is the source of the Big Lie.
The devil knows you that were created in the image of love and made for love. His desire is to separate you from that love. He does so by giving teeth to that voice in your head, and when you are running because of the sting of its bite, you cannot hear the voice of God.
But if you reach out for God, and place your faith in Him, His voice will become quite clear, as He simultaneously delivers you from your head. (Ps. 18:48 & 37:24; Jer. 33:3.)
The Big Liar is no match for Him… (1 Jn. 3:8 & 4:4.)
We’re still laying the groundwork of the enemy’s curse. (A problem defined is a problem half solved.)
Goodnight and God bless.
August 06 2015 | experiencing god's love | No Comments »
In our last post, Mom And Dad Are Working For The Devil, we followed the unconscious parents’ indoctrination of the message Satan created in the heads of Adam and Eve that they subsequently passed onto their children, who passed it on to their children, and so on throughout the ages.
The message was that Adam and Eve were created with a flaw, and the ultimate outcome was that they perceived themselves as unlovable and unacceptable.
Many parents do the same thing by teaching their children to conform to the ways of the world. This conflicts with what the God-nature of the child feels is right in his or her hearts; yet in order to try to get that love and acceptance from their parents, they attempt to become someone else who is compliant in those worldly ways.
They inculcate themselves with the ever-growing laundry list from their parents until this list takes on a life of its own. You see, these enormously creative human beings construct a new personality (ego) within themselves that encompass the laws of man. Ego’s job is to continually remind the child how to conform to ‘the list’ so that they can get some love and be protected from pain. It is a defensive cocoon against the outside world.
Ego is a creation for compensating for a lack that never existed. It is driven by fear and desire, and it mimics the voice of the devil himself – with his twin spirits of rejection and condemnation. This ‘voice’ starts out benevolent enough, instructing the child in how to comply with the ways of the world so that he or she doesn’t get punished and rejected for behavior that is unacceptable to its inhabitants. Life for the child becomes more about survival than about living.
But then it takes a dark turn. This ‘protector’ feeds on the power the child has given it and begins to resent him or her because it knows its existence is reliant upon its host’s perceived need for it. Ego knows that if the child were to return to its essence (God), the light of God would wipe the darkness out.
So what to do? It relentlessly reminds the child of its (imaginary) flaws so that they feel that the voice is necessary to survive in this ‘dangerous’ world. Indeed, the voice begins to sound a lot like an angry mom or dad. But worse, the child begins to identify that voice in their head as its own voice, so it doesn’t question the lies that ego spews forth. He or she forgot that they created this ego. The devil has set his hooks…
You too were a child. There’s a good possibility some of this mental construct is in you. Don’t blame yourself, you were too young to know what was happening and wouldn’t have any idea how to protect yourself if you did.
Mom and Dad aren’t the only culprits here. It’s just that your first exposure to this mental degradation comes from them.
You’re then pushed into schools that are solely invested in forwarding their socialization as per the dictates of the government’s agenda to get children to conform to mediocrity and to rob them of free thought. (Furthermore, they are filled with other kids who are experiencing the evil onslaughts of their own egos and projecting them outwards towards their fellow students.)
Should they not conform, the government / school arm belittles them, tries to drug them into a stupor, and isolates them by sending them to ‘continuation schools.’
[Don’t fool yourselves. Government by man (Babylon) is an evil necessity that God allows to reduce chaos until all the people who desire an eternity of love will return to Him and submit to the rule of the government of Christ. Look at what the devil told Jesus:
Again, the devil took Him up on an exceedingly high mountain, and showed Him all the kingdoms of the world and their glory. And he said to Him, “All these things I will give You if You will fall down and worship me.” Mt. 4:8, 9. NKJV
Satan cannot give anything away that was not given to him.]
Moreover, (at least in the U.S.) we have a media that fawns all over Babylon, never calling it to account over its nefarious intrusions. What they spew is whitewashed by that same government that abhors family values, hates the concept of family itself, and re-writes or ignores the word of God, as it demands your worship. This is the same media that sells human tragedy and criminal behavior as the human norm.
The final outcome? We (our children as well as ourselves) are lied to on every side. Yet nobody talks about it. We all try to hide our non-existent ‘bad parts’ – trying to change (‘I’ve got to improve!) by oppressing these illusions (‘I can’t let them see the real me!’), seeking a love that we cannot find because we’ve forgotten what it looks like, on account of we’ve stopped loving ourselves.
Our children pretend that all is well, but they know what they speak aloud is a lie. The devil sits back now, satisfied that another child bites the dust through his or her own thought processes that suck the life out of them.
Are you okay with that?
God gives each of His children a unique gift, one He wants them to share with the world on His behalf. It is through that sharing that each child grows into what He wants it to be. They become that by exercising their child-like faith and trust. When they do that, they are models of His kingdom:
Allow the little ones to come to Me, and do not forbid or restrain or hinder them, for of such [as these] is the kingdom of heaven composed. Mt. 19:14 AMP.
We as parents have a special stewardship, to the best of our ability, to help our children keep their God-given qualities – to stand in the gap, as a bridge for them, so that they can break away from how the world tries to mold them and return to the shining light of themselves. We need to help them to appreciate their uniqueness and to grow into it instead of trying to imitate someone else.
The best way we can do that is to make the same journey ourselves – to regain consciousness by returning to our God-essence:
‘Thus says the LORD of hosts, “Return to Me,” declares the LORD of hosts, “that I may return to you,” says the LORD of hosts.’ Zech. 1:3 NASB
We need to have an enormously loving, exalting presence in our children’s lives – forever reminding them of how special they (and everyone around them) are. (Big hint: We must own this for ourselves first, before we can pass it on to them.)
They must know that they’re perfect just the way they are, that there was never anything wrong with them, there is nothing wrong with them now, and there never will be anything wrong with them in the future. This builds self-respect and their acknowledgment of the perfection of God in them.
If a child has a need, we must meet it or painstakingly explain why their need may not be appropriate – all the while reassuring them that we love them dearly and that the denial of that need is for their greater good.
Let them know that you understand they may be sad or angry over that denial, that it’s normal, and that you will not judge them for those feelings but will help them work through them. Make them aware of the Godly hierarchy of conscious parental authority that you must exercise to nurture them, simultaneously offering them the opportunity to question your motivations. That is how they learn.
We must teach our children that we sometimes make bad choices and coach them in how to minimize that – simultaneously affirming that who they are remains unsullied. There may be bad things they’ve done, but they themselves are not, teaching them the way to forgiveness through Jesus Christ.
Once they realize there is no reason to reject themselves, they will know there is also no reason to create a false persona. They will also not be as vulnerable to their perceived rejection from others. When our children understand that external rejection only comes from the perpetrator’s pain, they can come from a place of compassion and forgiveness.
Along these same lines we let our children know that there is no failure. There are only outcomes that provide lessons to be learned – signposts that bring them closer to success. It’s not personal and does not devalue them. It’s only an indication that a certain path did not bring the desired result, but it was a victory nonetheless as it opens the way to the next opportunity to meet that challenge. Just like life.
Failure is an external event that happens to them but they control what happens in them. As long as they push through the fear, remain teachable and stay willing to take the next step, they will succeed. The only real failure comes when you stop trying.
Can you see the godly armor they will construct?
Most of all help your children connect with God. Get them into His word and teach them to love and serve His every living creation.
Imagine the victory if we, the parents, did the same thing for ourselves?
Praise God for the road to victory!
Goodnight and God bless.
August 01 2015 | experiencing god's love | No Comments »